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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DW likes to live life where you do not plan for next month until you have planned next weekend.  For little things, I kind of get it, but for big things, life does not work this way.  We have had huge blowups over vacation planning (DW is a SAHM, so has flexibility; I am more limited).  She does not want to talk about vacation planning when it needs to happen for big trips (e.g., popular destinations sell out).

The latest involves something with our kid....a school event about 8 hours from here.  I already had a business trip to that area, and I wanted to talk to DW about booking her trip ASAP.  As we approached the date, I kept talking to her, but she would no do it.  Now, the airfares are 4x what they were several weeks ago, and at a point where [b]she can not afford it[/b].  Now, she wants me not to go (I will be in the same city).  This is a once in a lifetime event for the the kids in the organization, but we will not see our kid during the thrip.  I have suggested she should try to carpool with someone, but she has made no effort.

Well, if she stays home, at least the dog will have company.[/quote]

"She" cannot afford it?  Red flag.  She is a SAHM, how can she afford anything?  What is going on in your finances exactly?  Maybe she doesn't want to spend the money to go at all.[/quote]

I typed it wrong.  We have merged finances for 20 years.  WE can not afford it.

The purpose of going is not to attend to DD, but rather to watch the competition.  [/quote]
Okay, OP. We know that your wife doesn’t plan. She avoids it. And she doesn’t work outside the home, and there are no small children to care for.  She gets upset when you say you’re going to your school-age child’s tournament.  
[b]So what’s your question? I’ve re-read your post and can’t seem to find one.[/b][/quote]

[b]OP is a frequent poster here, and this is his MO.  Post some story of how victimized he is as a spouse that could be plausible except he take some it to some ridiculous extreme (here, that his wife doesn’t want him going to the kid’s event even though he’ll already be in the city).  Not actually ask a question, refuse to respond to questions from others unless the reinforce his victimhood, [/b]etc.[/quote]

Got it. Thanks PP. [/quote]

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