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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know you love your sister but paying for her rehab is totally codependent behavior.

I know you want to pat yourself on the back for paying the money but it doesn’t matter if it’s $1 or $10K ... you saving her is a toxic move.

I’m not going to convince you of this on DCUM.

See a therapist who specializes in ALANON.

It would take a whole day to explain this to you.[/quote]

Pat yourself on the back? I’m not getting that from OP at all. Why be nasty?[/quote]

Funny! I'm not being nasty. Have you dealt with addiction. Have you been through Alanon?

You sound super naive.

OP is in for a long hard road and it is longer and longer the more you let people use you. [/quote]

DP, but professional therapists don't specialize in Al-Anon.  That's an incredibly naive comment.  They might refer people there, but they do individual therapy separately (which I absolutely recommend and which can be incredibly supportive for a sibling like OP).  The cost is low, but if in a low cost of living area it may be in line for intensive outpatient (IOP).  People are reacting to OP calling it rehab, but it's really IOP from what s/he's described.[/quote]

They do specialize in addiction from the family perspective. Of course OP is not attune to all the buzz words in the addiction world and she would understand Al-anon... she also knows he sister is rehabbing... she doesn't need to know right now that outpatient treatment is not really called rehab... this is not a exam.

There is a place in Montgomery County that sounds like the place her sister is going https://www.kolmac.com/helping-a-loved-one/.

There is a section fro "loved ones" and possibly you can get a recommendation for an individual therapist that understand Al-anon or as DP is insistent on calling individual therapy to understand family members with addiction.  :roll:

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Your tone is very mean-spirited.  Words matter; OP would have gotten more useful responses--or, at least, prevented a lot of the "that's SO CHEAP for rehab" if she described it as IOP from the outset.  Part of the reason addiction is so stigmatized is that people throw around words like "addict" and also because they're completely all or nothing about how best to support (*not* enable) a loved one struggling with addiction.  Al-Anon is one approach, and it's helped a lot of people.  But it's only one approach.  I agree that the OP should find an individual therapist who can support *her* as she navigates this process.  Whether she goes to Al-Anon and what she takes from it are up to her.[/quote]

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