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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Yes, by all means allow the crazy mother to dictate how you plan your most cherished holidays. Or stand firm and call the police when someone trespasses.[/quote]

This is easier said than done. This is also the biggest problems with narcissists. They don't mind creating a scene or inflicting distress on others to get their way. Normal people want to avoid situations where a relative is pounding on their doors and the police are called.

I have a batshit crazy aunt. DH and I are happy to grey rock her, block all calls and just ignore her. The problem is that she will seek us out at family events and scream at us for not engaging her. We will just walk away and leave but we just drove two hours to get there and wanted to see other family members. She doesn't care if she ruins things for everyone else. She is surrounded by too many enablers who just want to keep the peace so they give in to her tantrums and then make fun of her behind her back. We get tons of sympathy from other relatives that oh yes she is crazy, no one can stand being with her and then they just let her walk all over them. One has said that it really doesn't matter what you do with her. Standing firm, being direct, yelling back, ignoring -none of it makes any difference because there is no line she will not cross to get what she wants.

In OP's situation I would 100% travel or lie about traveling. [/quote]

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