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[quote=Anonymous]Op: Believe it or not I was in a  similar position. We were opening presents and my brothers dog (a Rottweiler) bit me. I shoved the dog off of me and gave it a slap.  Of course that didn’t hurt the dog— a large Rottweiler. 
However all h broke loose. Brother went crazy because I touched his dog. Big kurfuffle. Then later my mother drew me aside to let me know I was totally in the wrong for touching his dog without permission. (The dog BIT ME!) What a Christmas under the tree! Not as serious as what happened to you. 
That was a turning point for me. My mother didn’t really care about my physical safety— her  concern as always was attracting her favorite son to the home and nothing else was really important to her. In a way I blamed my mother more.  There’s no real changing my brother as he knew mom would take his side no matter what. 
After that I kept the boundaries up.  I still visited for Christmas but I kept it short. 
Would I expose my kids to this? No way.  Remember that this shows a profound disrespect for you. You were attacked by an alcoholic in a drunken rage. You are supposed to “keep your dignity “ ie suck it up. Is that the role you want to show your kids?
Of course you shouldn’t have said what you said as that lit the fire.  But if the family thinks that it is OK to attack you physically or even emotionally that sounds pretty bad. 
I know this is very hard as your sister “wins the family love” But is that an OK trade for you? 
I suggest in the kindest possible way talking this dynamic out with a therapist. It’s a very twisted situation. [/quote]

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