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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We disagree. My child does not like going to bed and I stay in his room when I can. He doesn’t dislike it because he is defiant but because he is sad the day is done and he wants to be with us. He is a wee behaved kid who does a good job listen and is a rule follower. People make far too many rules about a super strict bedtime and behavior that, in my opinion, increase the likelihood of defiance. For the most part, those rules are there to convience the parent.

DS essentially co slept with us for 2 years. We tried a bunch of different techniques and none of them took. At the end of a week of cry it out, our last resort, I said screw it. He slept better with us and we all got to sleep. He transitioned to his bed fine but doesn't like being alone. Most nights he falls asleep solo but so e nights he wants company. He is not being harmed by my reading on my ipad while he falls asleep. And we avoid the tantrums.

But people yhink weare crazy because a 7 year old wants his Mom tosit with him some nights.

OP should trust her gut and try what makes sense for her. Her kids should not be running the show but the pick up, carry, rinse and repeat for hours on end for weeks at a time is crazy. That,to me, is a method not working for her kid. Door locks and door knob handle covers strike meas dangerous and extreme. Figure out what works for your kids and doesn’t cause everyone anguish.

Startwith asking why the kids don't want to go to bed and try and see what you can do about that. Start by staying in their room for 30 minutes and then check on them every 15 minutes. Over time you can decrease the time in their room and e tend the check ins. And enjoy the 30 minutes you have to read or play a game.[/quote]

I don't think you're crazy but this would simply have wrecked me and would never have been a feasible option for my family. Neither dh or I can sleep well with a toddler in the bed. Our marriage and mental health would have suffered.

So just cause it worked for you doesnt mean that's a realistic solution for someone else[/quote]

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