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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here

To be clear- my father had a detailed will. All three of us received approximately 250k each. I have no idea what the the remaining balance of my dad's estate was after that.

It could have been a few million or a few hundred thousand. Whatever it was was left to my step mother along with the house. That's  another 800k there that will undoubtedly go to my half brother.

The money she's giving him comes from her share of the will.[/quote]

I dont understand. If you dont know how much of the estate was remaining after the 750k that went to his kids, how do you know there's another 800k left?

It seems like you and your full sibling got a fair share of the estate. I'd try to move on from this. Your stepbrother is a lot younger than you. Did they ever give you money in your twenties?[/quote]

The 800k is the value of the paid off home. No doubt Susan will leave that to her son. Or at least that's how I took it.[/quote]

So he left her the house. And then he left his three kids - two of whom who are her stepkids - 750k. And op doesnt even know how much more was left other than the 750k or the house. It's entirely possibly his wife was only left with a few hundred thousand after the house. Lots of wives would have issues with the kids getting such a big cut.

Also - another poster said the stepmom didnt work. Where does it say that? I dont see that anywhere. And even if she did not work, she was probably helping care for the kids and the house. She's his wife and they were married for decades. That is her money. And OP still has not answered how much her dad provided for her college, grad school, any other help in her twenties, etc. She is a lot older than her half brother.  [/quote]

That’s a good point. The stepbrother is only 25 and OP is almost 40. Who knows what she got from her father when he was living. It’s not horrible to pay the cell phone bill of your 25 year old nor help them out with house expenses or a down payment, etc. It’s kind of silly to complaint about that stuff when you are far past the age of needing help.

If he’s 25, his “cushy” government job probably doesn’t pay that much. Not that it’s any of your business. [/quote]

WTF are you even talking about. The kid is making a least 70k, gets every federal holiday, several weeks paid vacation, 9-5 hours, no weekend work, has excellent health care, metro reimbursement (ie his commute is free) and will have a fully vested pension by 45. And nearly impossible to be fired.

If that's not cushy you are either born wealthy or trolling. Most jobs don't even have retirement benefits anymore.

Source: 28 year old in DC trying hard to get a fed job[/quote]

No he’s likely not making 70k. Entry-level jobs with a bachelor’s degree (GS-7) start at 47k in 2019. I doubt he is more than a GS-7 or maybe GS-9. Sure, it’s cushy in that it’s a relatively secure job, but the private sector offers way more money and even better benefits. The health care isn’t that great. Metro benefits only mean something if your building is metro-accessible (mine isn’t). And you are sorely mistaken about a “fully vested pension by 45.” That doesn’t exist anymore. Google is your friend.

Anyway, all that is to say he’s just a few years out of college and it’s not unreasonable to get some help in a HCOL area like DC before you’re fully established.

Source: someone who actually works for the federal government. [/quote]

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