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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]we started bedtime last night at 6, so were probably done with bath and stories etc by 7. Little one definitely napped too late in the day -- big one didnt' nap at all, he did attend two birthday parties though so sugar may have played a role.

Big one could climb out of crib at 18 months -- we did the super nanny method then (oh it may take 10 tries but they'll eventually stay in crib -- the first night after 36 -- 36!-- times of me putting him back in crib and him climbing out, I caved.)

I have never ever met anyone as stubborn as this kid, and he comes from a long line of stubborn people -- myself and DH included.[/quote]

Yup that was me and my kid. He is totally fine at 7 but I will stay in his room from time to time.

Parenting is as much following your gut and knowing your kid. Not every child has to have the same routine. You are not ruining your kid if you stay in their room or don't do cry it out. DS is very clear that his disappointment with bed time is that he wants to be with us. He likes being with us. He can fall asleep on his own. He is not tantruming. We had several silent protests when he was 3. He would take his blankie and stuffed animal and sit in the hallway until Dad came home from tennis. He was quiet about it so I would turn the corner to go tot he bathroom and he would be sitting there.

OP: Trust your gut and do what feels right for you. If the Super Nanny works for you, great. [b]If after a week of it taking 35 efforts and not getting better, then it is ok to try something else. Hell, after one night of that stupidity try something else.[/b] [/quote]

I'm the first poster who put out the super nanny approach. I didn't know that is what it was! But kind of affirming to see that it is a real thing hahaha. We just are as stubborn as our daughter and refused to give up ourselves.

I kind of take issue with your last sentence pp. I mean, I'm not a devotee of this method and feel at the end of the day what works for individual families is fine. But it isn't stupidity if you are at your wit's end like OP is. OP is saying, 'oh I spend 3 hours putting my kids to bed and my girlfriends are telling me that is dumb' she's saying this whole thing is driving her nuts. She doesn't like this situation and wants to change it.

For sure maybe this method will not work. And she can definitely try other stuff if she finds that she is getting nowhere. Although to OP I'll say with this particular method, it will feel like you are doing nothing until it works, they will keep testing testing testing until suddenly and magically they accept the boundary you have established and get bored and move on. But to call it stupidity? Seems a little harsh and unnecessary. Kids test boundaries. The worst thing you can do with a kid that age (IMO) is to try to establish a boundary and to cave when they test it. They will simply not believe you are serious anymore, about all kinds of things. But I agree that parenting is knowing your own kid and what will work and won't work. But for us, this is the thing that always works. It isn't frequently deployed, but on things we are VERY serious about, and sleep is one of those things, it works and the kids then take it as seriously as we do. [/quote]

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