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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't disagree with this but wander what is the best way for a parent to express legitimate concerns?[/quote]

Once, privately, with a probing question or two.  That's it.  Then you DROP IT.  You have to trust your child to make the right choice for them.  Even if it's not the choice YOU would make for them.  After that you are just attempting to fight a losing battle.  And yes, you will be the one who looses.[/quote]

Say your child is infatuated with an alcoholic, you ask a probing question and drop it? [/quote]

I would say that if your child is infatuated with an alcoholic - they KNOW this already, and the fact that they are involved with this person says a lot about your child (the child you raised). You have finished raising this person and now can only listen and support- if asked. I do think probing questions could be useful when brought up at the right time- to feel things out. Also IME if you are involved with an alcoholic you are probably a heavy drinker yourself...most others would not tolerate it. At least in the beginning of a relationship...and most people don’t become alcoholics out of the blue, either.

All assuming we are discussing a financially independent adult child 25ish or older (not a college kid)[/quote]

I think you have some misconceptions about alcoholism. To the original question, if your child is in a relationship with an alcoholic or experiencing domestic violence, please don’t assume your child is a deeply flawed person beyond hope. Let your child know you are always there and you can help in whatever way is needed. It can be difficult to get out.[/quote]

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