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[quote=Anonymous]I don't hate men, I love my husband, my father, my FIL and my son. As well as many other men in my life. Are any of them perfect? Nope. Do some yell at the TV during a football game, or swear about a project that isn't going as planned. YUP.

But, I and my child are not accustomed to it. It happens infrequently and is very short lived, never directed at us and WE are never the cause. We aren't blamed or made to feel if we had done something differently Daddy would be happy.

That is the difference between normal male emotions and abuse. Your husband is 100% an emotional abuser or on his way down that path. Once a week or more is NOT a normal state to live in and the fact that your child tunes it out is what casues me concern. I cried last week when I got some bad health news about a family member. I cry so infrequently that my child KNEW something was very wrong. WE talked about it. 
When my husband swears my child says "Uh oh, Daddy said a bad word!" and my DH says "yes i did, this project is frustrating me". 
When a child starts ignoring behavior it means that it is so common place that it doesn't register to them to comment. This is NOT a good thing. Your child is normalizing that yelling and blaming others is a way to express frustrations.

Please get yourself help because your husband is making you think this is normal and YOU are part to blame. This is textbook abuser manipulation. Period. [/quote]

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