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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is more of a long term goal. But the best thing they did was stay cordial enough that big events could be shared. Not at first' but after 5 or 6 years. So now, as we are all adults, it makes things so much easier. We can do birthdays and holidays and even vacations together, with my parents and their new partners. No two Xmases for my family and then a 3rd for my inlaws. My dad will come to a casual lunch at my moms house just to see us or the grandkids.

People are shocked by how well they've done this. I know it wasn't always easy. And I'm so so grateful they pushed throughout the awkward years. For their kids. [/quote]

+1 to this. My parents split when I was 6 so I am sure there are things I am forgetting but my sister and I were shielded from our parents' harshest feelings towards each other even though, as an adult, I know they must have had them. I cannot remember them ever being really angry with each other in front of us.  My post-divorce memories were of an organized arrangements, pleasant family time spent together and kindnesses between the two. For example, my mom is an MD and she offered advice and referrals to his side of the family if someone had an illness.

We dont have joint holidays or vacations but all my and my sister's graduation parties were joint affairs with grandparents, step-parents, etc in attendance.  And when we had a big school activity (games, concerts, etc.) they would both be there and would sit together, then we would all go out to dinner together afterwards.  This made me feel like a "normal" kid, a normal family.  That helped a lot during middle school and teen years.  [/quote]

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