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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dad completely lost his filter, among other signs of dementia.  Turns out he had frontotemporal dementia.  No amount of correction or boundaries was going to undo that.  He had a geriatric psychiatrist who was really helpful in getting him medicated enough to be a reasonably pleasant person (mostly) without the enraged outbursts.  [b]So consider that this may be a disease and not just the person trying to torture you. 
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frontotemporal_dementia
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Well said.  A few of the posts show that th[b]e posters don't really have a good understanding of dementia and that they should be more compassionate and understanding with their loved one.[/quote]
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You should be ashamed of yourself for criticizing people who actually do the work with their parents. Venting is healthy. I have news for you, if we weren't compassionate we wouldn't be doing all this often with downright verbal abuse in return. I have dealt with parents and grandparents with and without dementia who became incredibly difficult and self-centered and quite cruel to the caregiver.[/quote]

[b]I am not ashamed at all of me.  I am GREATLY ashamed of most of the posters here.  You all sound like a bunch of immature loud-mouthed brats whining because mommy won't kiss your boo-boo and wants you to stop complaining about yourselves all the time.  FWIW I do walk what I talk and we are caregivers to elderly family members with dementia and a whole host of other ailments.  [/b][/quote]

I've posted, though I'm not PP quoted above but none of the elderly people I have posted about have dementia.  None of them.  If they did have dementia I would at least be able to explain some of the nastiness away. Without dementia you are just staring at an obnoxious selfish nasty old person.

Their world shrinks and I get that but when you are caring they should try to understand instead they are so incredibly selfish.

Many care-givers burn out.  Let people vent.  You should be ashamed of yourself for not understanding that people need to vent sometimes, people get frustrated and worn out.  It's doesn't make them whiny brats it makes them human and I'm not going for some super hero award like you obviously are.  Good luck to you with that.

My friend cared for her dad with dementia and even she said how hard it was to deal with the cruelness and the loss of a father because the person she was caring for wasn't the dad she knew.   Imagine I responded by calling her a loud mouthed whiny brat.  No instead I hugged her and told her how great she was doing.  I couldn't be as heartless as you.[/quote]

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