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[quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thank you for the (mostly) safe space to vent, the supportive posts, and the posts that have given me some things to think about. I'm not going to go through answer specific posts (except for one, below), but I'll give some general answers based on the things people seemed to comment on/ask about the most.

DH willingly left behind the small town we lived in and a job he enjoyed so I could attend grad school in DC. It wasn't always easy or smooth, but he supported me going for it. So when his "dream" opportunity presented itself, I decided I would support him as he did for me. Plus I was pretty burned out on my current employer, so we took the leap.

I think DH also just got really used to having a stay at home wife while I was out of work. I've asked plenty of times for him to pick up some slack now that I also work full-time, and it will go okay for a week or two but then he slips back into his old habits. I can't not make dinner--we have a kid who needs to eat. I can't stop grocery shopping--again, kid needs to eat. I can't not do dishes--I've tried, it only ends up attracting bugs AND we then have no clean plates to eat off of. I can't not do laundry--gotta have clean clothes (although I have taken to only doing mine and the kid clothes). I really think some good marriage therapy could help us tackle this, but like I said he refuses.

My end goal is not to move to DC and divorce. My end goal, I think, is for us to stay married and both secure somewhat fulfilling jobs back in DC because we both love the city. We held on to our little rowhouse because the intention was always to return.

[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry, OP. I feel you. No actual advice, except to say that usually I give up on longer posts, but yours drew me in. Not sure what your job is, but you should definitely be writing.

Good luck![/quote]

Thank you! I use my writing skills in my job, though not as much as I would like. I learned pretty quickly making a career as a writer was unlikely, but do enjoy the outlet it provides. I've been working on a novel in fits and starts over the years but it is no where close to finished.[/quote]

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