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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will freely admit that I do not usually intervene when my kid commits a routine playground faux-pas like climbing the slide. You know why? I am tired and it is not a huge deal at the end of the day. With my 2yo, I intervene because it is usually a safety issue. With a 5yo, though? No. They can figure it out themselves.

I completely realize this is selfish and that most of you probably find it extremely annoying. I find the people who are constantly intervening in the social dynamics of elementary-school-aged kids annoying as well. [/quote]

I don’t find that selfish or extremely annoying in any way whatsoever. It’s normal parenting.  Anyone who write six paragraphs about it not being ok is self delusional. [/quote]

Yes, but I'm telling my 21 month old he cant climb up the slide and your 5 year old does it. Either the rules apply or they dont. Your kid being older doesnt get to not have rules just because they can handle the physical fallout if they fall off, etc. Your kid should be told that they need to watch out for little kids and show them the right way to do things. Let them be wild and without rules at your house.

We went to the park this weekend at Centennial Park. There was a kid STEPPING on the back of my toddlers heels as he was trying to cross a bridge. I had to physically put my hand there to stop him from running him over while telling him to please wait his turn. Eventually, we just took him off the bridge.

Older kids were climbing the outside of the slides, running into smaller kids, etc. If my kid is crawling through the tunnels, I have to physically block kids from running into the tunnel and stepping on him. These older kids are serious $$$holes. A 6-8 year old pushed my kid out of the way on the slide. I was down below to help him come down- right next to the top of the slide and was there to move him aside. There were 2 other slides open next to him. You better believe I asked where her mom was. And she wouldnt answer.

This happened in a huge playground within 15-20 minutes. We ended up walking the paths because of this.

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As someone that has had a 21 month old that it’s now older… The playground is not the place for them when the bigger kids are there. Go when it’s really quiet.  Big kids don’t see little kids. They just don’t.  It’s not because of their parents it’s because they’re playing and it’s how it’s always been.  Bothered me me too until it really sunk in that I needed to be the one responsible for my child safety.  Of course kids need rolls but also kids that are more vigorous don’t need the same roles that a tiny child does.[/quote]

+1. Find a playground that has a toddler area and separate big kid area. If the big kids are running crazily around the toddler area, THEN you say something. If your toddler is in the big kid area and is getting jostled around but not hurt, then who cares? If the big kid is putting your kid at risk or actually hurting him (like making him cry from pain hurt), then say something to the big kid ("that was dangerous, this baby could have fallen off of the slide"), then REMOVE YOUR KID FROM THE BIG KID AREA.[/quote]

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