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 I was scanning this exchange and will add that we helped both of our parents find an independent unit in a well regarded continuing care community in the 
Boston area five years ago.  My Mom had dementia and she entered the Memory Care unit , which was new a year ago March.  It worked out well as my Dad is very independent still driving limited locally in daytime, hitting golf balls at the driving range and even golfing occasionally with one of my brothers at age 97.5.  He is sharp as a tack.  Anyway, even in independent living, it was a great help to have a woman coming in three tines a week to help Mom shower, do recommended physical exercise for about three hours a day.  In Memorh Care, my Dad was able to visit daily, eat a meal with her etc.  It was hard on him to see the decline, but having two in the same setting was such a relief.

[b]However, from our experience, I would suggest with a couple in the same continuing care complex, but in different settings or a spouse living still at home and one in any sort of an assisted living, memory care or nursing unit, what is the policy on notification of a sudden death?  By this I mean to clearly ask how a spouse would be notified AND then perhaps who should be notified first.  In our case, my Mom had a heart attack in the early evening with a young caregiver getting ready for bed, and they actually went to call my Dad to inform him!  However, fortunately he had a temporary hearing loss at the time so a staff person had to walk over to his unit an inform him.  What is maddening is that they knew there were two sons/DILS within 10 minutes of the place who could have been called to buffer the news.  It just makes sense to define how news of a sudden death would be handled within a Life are setting and/or if put in writing what family member should be contacted first.[/b].   Even with a chain which has a great reputation, you realize it is a franchise operation and there is no set centralized training of staff etc.

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