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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would tread gently, as the other child obviously has some social skills issues.[/quote]

OP here. I figured that and neither I nor my son want to upset this kid, but he has a right to say "no."[/quote]

No one is saying he doesn't have the "right to say no."

But, this is your opportunity to have him advocate for himself. This is not dangerous or threatening situation. He has to be able to say: "Larlo, you've been texting me a lot. And it's making me [uncomfortable/fell awkward]. I don't appreciate being texted 52 times in a day. I'll see you in school." If it escalates, THEN you get the school involved.

It sounds like BOTH boys need some social skills, but in different ways.[/quote]

When somebody is really obsessive you sometimes need to walk on eggshells. Your suggestion could make things escalate IMO. If a child has already declined many times that should be clear enough and if it isn't then there are other things going on where it makes more sense to have a counselor involved.[/quote]

Sorry, but you're being ridiculous. 12 year old kids are learning social norms, including lots of them being new to using the phone. It's our job to guide them.

I've seen kids typing in all caps. Sending lines and lines of emojis. "Stalking" each other to hang out. Jumping straight to the conclusion that the kid in the OP has something wrong with him or is dangerous or is truly "stalking" him is ABSURD. There is nothing that indicates the OPs kids told him to stop; just that he doesn't want to hand out. Those are two different things. If AFTER he has told him to stop and he doesn't, then the counselor should be involved. Not before.

Are you all so nervous in real life? Jesus help us all if you are.

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52 texts is not normal.  If it is your normal, then find other like moms so you can text each other 52 times each to hang out, and be with your people.  Otherwise, guide, correct and PARENT your kid. Don't deflect and name call other parents for not entertaining you and your kid's foibles (see above).

It is like the mom (a grown woman) who doesn't understand when you don't answer your phone, that you are not available, then shows up at your doorstep to drop off her kids.  No excuse. I have seen it.  Some people are not reasonable, and live in their own world - not in the real world. OP is irritated, and she has every right to be.  You don't get to say how you or your kid's actions makes OP or her kid feel, PP.

Reign it in - know when to say when, and teach your kid. PARENT.[/quote]

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