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[quote=Anonymous]	Why do you want a divorce, op? You say your special needs kid is a huge handful. Why not spend more time with him? I'm serious. You mention your working hours, and I'm wondering if you are using work as an escape? I'd say this if you were a man too. 
Why not spend some time working on your marriage? Again, I'm being serious. 
Know that if you divorce, you may not meet anybody you want to be with. You can probably find a friends with bennifits, but if you want more, it may not happen. Men don't typically care how much a woman makes. Men aren't lining up to be dads when they have no legal authority for a child that they can't legally adopt.  The courts don't care about stepparents. Be aware that there are people who can be cruel to a person with a disability, no matter how mild and they can rationalize it as "tough love" "helping him grow up" "giving you a break" all types of nice sounding words.  How will you evaluate the men you date to know how they will treat a child who by your own words is a "huge handful?" Conversely, how will you evaluate men who may have your kid's best interests at heart but they are telling you things you don't want to hear?  My mom has a saying that "a child's greatest special need is his/her mother".  The older I get, and the more moms I meet, the more I think I agree with her.

How will you have time to date if you are so busy at work and taking care of your kids? Again, I'm being serious. Don't think that you are so awesome men will just stand by waiting for you to meet for coffee or a drink when you have 20 minutes to spare. No woman is, at least not if they are interested in healthy men.  Since you have children, you do need to be aware of the nasty men out there who have an unhealthy interest in children, both sexually and otherwise. They are always up for a quick drink since they aren't really interested in you as a woman or a person.
Since you want to date (and yes, I'm the poster that suggested it on another thread) try dating your husband. Do things together and really enjoy each other in every sense of the word. If you don't go to church, do that, I love sitting with my husband at church. He is appropriately affectionate and I always love that. The added bonus is that we either hear something we like, or we hear something we can make fun of. Either way, it gives us even more to talk about. That's always a good thing.

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