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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this is common for this generation. Life has been an endless treadmill of hovering, overprotective parents and preparation.

He probably sees college as something that is hoisted on him rather than feeling blessed that he is getting a good education paid for.
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We did not "hoist" or force him to go to college. He loves the freedom, loves he was able to get out of our home and out of town. He is disinterested in everything college about college; the work, the library, clubs, making connections. He's sort of just there, chugging along in lower rigor courses. [b]He has a social life and friends but we worry how serious they take him or if he's just [/b][b]Good Time Charlie nobody will associate with after they graduate and go in different directions[/b]. That's perhaps cynical, but it's a real concern of mine. :([/quote]

This statement seems extremely judgmental.  Many people don't keep up with college friends, or they do for a while and then they don't.  If he has the capacity to make friends now, why would that go away after college?  He'll make friends wherever he goes, it sounds like.  He's a chill kid.  That's how he's going to face his life.  People spend years of adulthood trying to become that way, with mindfulness practice, therapy, etc.  I empathize with you OP because I tend to worry about things FOR my kid, but that's a me problem, not a him problem.  If he is handling independence, making friends, enjoying himself in the ways he's found to enjoy himself, not having mental health problems, passing his classes...I'd say he's doing pretty well.  He's engaging the social part of life and developing that, which is arguably the most important thing.[/quote]

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