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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there are a lot of people right now are very vocal about setting up 'boundaries' for really weird reasons that are part of the narcissistic culture that is predominate in the US.  Everyone I've met who has had to set up 'boundaries' with a parent has been emotionally insecure and immature.  When I meet someone who has had to set up boundaries for a real reason, then maybe my opinion will change.[/quote]

No, boundaries are not a new thing at all. There wasn’t always a term for it though (or the term wasn’t used less frequently).

A classic example is newlyweds who have family constantly stopping by without calling. They tell family they need to call first- which is a boundary. A tale as old as time, really. And doing such is not immature or “emotionally insecure” in the least. [/quote]

Agreed. It is actually mature to set boundaries. [/quote]

As long as the newlyweds have respected the boundaries of their parents.  Otherwise it is emotionally insecure and narcissistic.  Stop assuming that you can walk into your parents’ home without notice or knocking; stop assuming that your parents are willing and able to help you whenever you need something; stop looking to your parents for approval; etc.

Just my experience as an older person - the boundary stompers are usually the adult children.  [/quote]

This last post!  People on this forum are constantly complaining about their parents not helping or being involved.  Those with no family locally never complain about missing family but rather that they have no family to help them.  [/quote]

My boundary-stomping family lives wayyy on the other side of the country, and I am EXTREMELY glad of it!

But it's kind of funny.  The way you're trying to "prove" based on irrelevant and inapposite data that somebody is incorrect when they claim a boundary is being violated, is so very very boundary stomping!  [/quote]

I am not denying anyone’s experience of being “boundary stomped” - I am simply noting which generation I see “stomping boundaries” the most and it’s the generation of young parents.

And your anecdotal comment, thinking that if you don’t do it than no one does - is definitely boundary stomping.  Does no one else have a right to opinions and observations but you?  Are you this diminishing in real life?  [/quote]

whatever. you're clearly projecting your experience with your own newlywed child onto everyone else = clear boundary and perception issues. [/quote]

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