Reply to Parents are NOT notified by the college if the child gets in trouble, e.g. drugs, alcohol in dorm?

Forum Index » College and University Discussion

Reply to "Parents are NOT notified by the college if the child gets in trouble, e.g. drugs, alcohol in dorm?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We just dropped off our oldest at college that is a plane ride away. My spouse and I entered into the agreement to pay his tuition without any expectation of the university reporting his status. He turned 18 this summer. We’ve worked really hard to teach him to make good choices and how to get out of rough situations. Now we need to let go. It’s not easy. But damn if I’m going to manage this kid for the rest of my life. T[/quote]

Straw man. Nobody said anything about micro managing. OP discussed when teen is in trouble. A parent SHOULD be notified of a teen freshman is sexually assaulted or caught with drugs in dorm or in the hospital for alcohol poisoning. The secrecy WHEN YOUR CHILD IS IN DANGER is alarming. [/quote]

Imagine if you got too drunk at a holiday work party, vomited in the bathroom and then called in sick the next morning, and your boss called your mother to tell her what happened.  When does it end for your kid?  When are their mistakes just their own to try to deal with, and to decide whether or not to enlist the help of a parent, or sibling, or friend?  What if you had a contentious relationship with your parents and they disapproved of your life choices, and then one day you were raped, and your employer called your mother to tell her you'd been raped, even though you hadn't planned on disclosing this horrible, violating information to your mother because of how your mother would react and attempt to blame you for it.  Do you think your boss was RIGHT to call your mom and tell her?  What if your mom was the one who helped you get the job, or who bought you your first work suit?  Then should your boss call her? [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics