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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Has anyone had an abortion and how did it affect you? I'm pro-choice but now that it comes down to me making the decision, I'm scared of how that will affect me. [/quote]

I had one when ds was about 1.5 years old.  Birth control fail.  I did not want a second for various reasons.  DH was happy with 1 but would have respected whatever I chose.  It has not affected me at all.  I didn't mourn, I wasn't sad, I don't think about it.  I'm thankful we live in a country where that option is available in a safe and secure environment.  [/quote]

This seems callous and disingenuous. You don’t even think about it? I have never met one person who has had one and never thinks about it.[/quote]

Correct, I don't.  I was and still am 100% confident in my decision.  I'm not sure what there is to still think about 5 years later.  Correction, the only time I think about it is when talks of abortion/women's rights come up, such as here.  But then I think of it no differently than if someone was asking about having a minor surgery.   I know there are some.people that think "oh if I didn't have the abortion x would be going off to K" or "I wonder how our lives would be different if I hadnt had an abortion" , but those thoughts have quite honestly never run through my head.

Everyone's experience is different.  Perhaps I'm an outlier. But OP asked if anyone had had one and I gave my honest opinion. [/quote]

I also find this callous. I am pro-choice and always have been. But the idea of aborting my child’s sibling is heart-wrenching to me.[/quote]

You guys need to get a grip. I'm a totally new poster and I believe if I had an abortion it would linger in my mind but PP's experience is as valid as any others. We don't all have to be the same. Legal access to abortion doesn't come with a requirement that, 'if you do get one you need to feel really bad about it for the rest of your life.'

PP hasn't had 10 abortions, she had one, and it was the right decision and she hasn't regretted it and doesn't dwell on it. Good for her, that is literally why we fight for the right. [/quote]

This. I had one at 18. I also "didn't think about it" because it was an obvious choice to me. I actually later struggled with a miscarriage, infertility, etc and it still didn't affect me, because I knew it was the right decision at the time. No need to make every woman feel as if she is a monster if she doesn't harbor extensive guilt for a very rational choice not to bring an unwanted child into the world. [/quote]

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