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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m guessing you’ll be dealing with this multiple times a year if you don’t sort it out right now.

I’d go over and tell them firmly that if the kid annoys you again by knocking on the door to ask something irrelevant or entering your home uninvited or interrupting your kids game, you will instruct your kids to not talk to him or play with him at all.

Tell the grandparents that the boy clearly needs a lot more supervision than other kids his age because he doesn’t play in a typical way and that the grandparents can’t just send him out to play with the others anymore, they need to mind him themselves.

I can just see the grandparents reporting back to the parents that everything was great, he was out playing with neighborhood kids all day every day, kid had a ball, and the kid will be there again before you know it. [/quote]
You sound awful![/quote]

:roll: Let me guess. You’re a “but it takes a village!” person.

There’s no reason why OP and her kids should need to babysit him. The grandparents signed up for it, they can’t just arrogantly wash their hands of him and make him the whole neighborhood’s problem.

I was mildly sympathetic until they laughed off OP’s concerns. Not okay.[/quote]
Nope, but I do work with SN kids and have raised my children to be compassionate. [/quote]

[b]Your kids would not want to play with a boy who kept intercepting their football and throwing it across the street.

Your kids would not want to play with a boy who whines incessantly that he didn’t want to play what all of the other kids were playing[/b].[/quote]

I’m not the pp but you are wrong. YOUR kids would not want to play under such circumstances. Children taught compassion learn how to adapt to children who have a hard time fitting in. [b]Sadly, very few kids are raised with compassion.[/b] [/quote]

This a lot of emotional intelligence and selflessness  to ask of neurotypical 9 year olds.

Sometimes I think SN moms can get in a bubble and hyper focus so much on helping their child, they forget that other children are still children. They’re not just props in your child’s life to facilitate his therapy. You need to have a tiny bit of compassion for them too.

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+1. I’m a SN mom of a kid (now teen) with an invisible disability. When he was younger, he “passed” as just a really quirky kid (which is essentially what he is). It is too much to expect young kids to recognize an invisible disability. They are very very good at helping kids with an obvious disability. This situation is too much for the kids to navigate on their own. The grandparents should be taking their grandson on outings or arranging supervised activities. They can’t expect everyone else to do their job. Not every kid can go and join the group without incident. [/quote]

Well I taught my kids to stick up for the underdog. They always sat with the new kid at school, stuck up for kids who were bullied, and were kind and inclusive to children with special needs.  It was a bit of practice work to teach them that, but it was so, so important and they have become wonderful young adults. The youngest is 14. He’s popular, athletic, and kind, and he would never treat a new neighbor or a neighborhood child in the way that is being described or proposed (avoiding, ignoring, calling him annoying). Even when he was nine he would not act like that.  Seriously? Do better. [/quote]

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