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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also it sounds like this is her dad’s new house, right? Was the lower level her childhood bedroom or did she not have one in this house with a four year old? If she’s just crashing in her dad’s new family’s guest suite, let’s not get crazy about “family.” Kick her out if you don’t want her there or charge her rent or something. [/quote]

She didn't grow up in this house.  Dad is military and we are stationed in DC.  Room is outfitted for her, with her belongings.

I called her mom to ask about house rules over there, since we don't have any.  [i]Mom suggested 1 am kick out time, since that was DSD's curfew last year.  So, I texted her and we are going with that[/i]. [/quote]

This doesn't even seem worth setting a boundary to me, if the curfew is 1am.  Now she's mad that you're limiting her time with her boyfriend, you're the evil stepmother, mom's a collaborator, dad's still cool, and you [b]still [/b]have to be company-ready in your house until 1am (but not 2!) which means until after you go to sleep every night.  All downside, no upside.  What's the point?[/quote]
Does anyone replying here have older teens or young adults for kids staying with you during the summer? You are all overreacting and by a lot. Parents sleep and young adults have friends over, and sleepovers and you do not have to be company-ready! They don't want you around, they are fine on their own. Probably drinking and laughing and watching dumb movies, and yes, having sex. This is all normal at that age. And your reply seems most normal of all here, but trust me, I am not company ready at 1am, nor is any mom or dad of my kids' friends that they are spending the summer with. We are used to it, OP isn't since she hasn't been there yet with her own kid and is truly overly high strung about a 19 year old having a boyfriend over. The only thing to do is if they are loud, turning lights on and off... is to tell both of them, "look, we are sleeping and you need to respect that, no lights all over, no loud tv, no laughing like nuts. Please be respectful that we have work and that your brother and we all need to sleep." That's is, that is a normal thing to do.[/quote]

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