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[quote=Anonymous]If your whole life outside of work is your kids, then yes, there is a problem with being too wrapped up in your kids.  Everyone should have time for themselves and their own interests or life.  If you have a co-parent, then your co-parent should have times with the kids when you aren't around.  What do you do during those times?  If you use your "me time" for doing errands or chores, like grocery shopping, then it really isn't taking time for yourself.  Even if you are a single parent, you should still find a way to take some time for yourself.  If you can't afford extra childcare, then take an afternoon off when the kids are with whatever childcare that you currently have and do something for yourself.  But find a way to take time for yourself and do something that you want to do.

My spouse and I both take time to do things without the kids.  I have an activity that I used to do before kids.  I do a lot less of it now, but I still participate every now and then.  My spouse has a group of long-time friends and periodically I will take care of the kids and my spouse will go and spend time with this group of friends.  They don't get together as often as they used to (most have families and some aren't always available when the rest of the group is), but they get together periodically and someone will pick an activity that the group will do together.

You need time to maintain your own identity and to have some time away from the kids.  [/quote]

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