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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Poor OP, you must have regretted asking this question to a bunch of frustrated women, full of insecurities, defensive and you might even infer aren't or don't feel smart.

It's important to know oneself. Maybe when you got married, you weren't aware that a certain level of smartness was important to you. You were so focused on not being with someone like your dad, that you looked for the qualities he was lacking in your husband.

I am in my 30s now, still not married but I'm so grateful I'm not yet. The reason is that a couple of years ago, I used to think that a man's brain wasn't that important to me. Who was I kidding? I live in my head and I thrive on intellectual stimulation and challenges. I have no problems whatsoever telling people that I am looking for a man who is as smart as me. My old criteria were finding someone not as obnoxious as dad and who would be appreciated by mom's family. That reasoning made me dated with men who spent their time trying to belittle me, being verbally abusive towards me when I was just asking a question they couldn't answer.

I'm aiming for a career as a diplomat, enjoy conversations about foreign policy so no way I am going to end up with a guy I can't have this kind of discussions with, I don't care how sweet he is because I know being intellectually stimulated by my partner is as important as his kindness. And if he's smarter than me, that's better in terms of personal growth.

I wouldn't do this if not for your first paragraph, but...
"smarter than I"
"these kind of discussions"
etc.

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