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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our oldest is starting 5th grade and lost 2 of his close friends this summer out of his class as their parents made the jump to “better school systems”. Others are talking about about doing the same next year. [b]We are committed to sticking it out and bringing about the change the other families feel didn’t come fast enough on the Hill but I can’t help but feel that they are abandoning the community and us to the point they are part of the problem with the middle schools.[/b] We went to one of their BBQs up in Bethesda last week and had to sit there while they raved about how much better it was and others changed the conversation when we told that we were stying. [b]I couldn’t help but feel every brag was a shot at us.[/b]

Considering that kids drift away, I just want to cut the ties and focus on the families that share our values but how do you explain that to kids who simply don’t grasp the bigger issues?[/quote]

[b]This just screams that you are insecure with your own choices.  And I get it, it's a bit of a gamble.  Things likely will get better for DCPS, or parts of it, but it's no guarantee.  And it's got to be nerve-wracking, deciding that your highest priority is social change, and knowing that you might not be putting your kids in the best situation possible for them, when you have the means to do so.  
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But, you have to stop taking it personally.  They're excited about their move, they're excited about their new house, and even if they have regrets, they have to *act* like they don't, because I'm sure their kids aren't thrilled about leaving their friends, and if the parents show their qualms, it'll just make it the transition harder.  Also, there are *some* things that are better about living in the suburbs than the city (just like there are *some* - I would say more - things better about living in the city than the 'burbs), and they're allowed to be excited about those things without you making it all about you.  [/quote]

OP, as your very highest priority is not your child's education why does it bother you so much to hear about other's who do value such as a priority? Be confident in your choices OP![/quote]

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