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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your friend actually did the right thing. I had a hard time disciplining our kids because there was always an activity coming up and I didn't want to disappoint the other kid by cancelling. In hindsight, it would have worked much better for my kids to experience an immediate consequence of not getting to do something they really wanted to do. [/quote]

No, she didn’t.  She flaked out on parenting.[/quote]

Hard disagree. You "flake" when you plan to meet up for drinks and at the last minute say you can't do it. She's parenting her kids the best way she can. Yes, it stinks for OP, but I bet it stinks as much, if not more, for the other mom. OP can still take her kids to the destination and even make it a teachable moment. "I'm sorry, Larla, but Larlo isn't able to come to the playdate because he made bad choices" or however you want to word it. It would help if OP gave us ages and other details, but I get it if she doesn't want to out the other mom.[/quote]

Sorry, I really dislike parents like you.  I agree with the first PP that the "friend" flaked.  There are better ways to handle this.  I've gone to a playdate and had my child have a timeout for the first 10 minutes and have to sit on the bench with me while the other child plays.  I've also gone to the playdate and then my child does not get a treat, like if the kids get ice cream at the end of they playdate, he doesn't get it.

I will politely give another parent one strike here.  If you pull this twice on me and my kid, there are no more playdates.  I'm not scheduling time with you if I can't trust that you'll follow through.  I agree that it is lazy parenting to use this as your consequence.  [/quote]

That makes no sense to do a 10 minute time out as a punishment at a playdate in less the crime happened at the playdate.  You do that at home. That is lazier parenting.[/quote]

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