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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you are picking this fight.  Use the dishwasher.  And washing pump parts and bottles should not take a long time.  Five minutes, tops.  Fill the sink with hot soapy water, drop them in, go do something else, come back later and rinse.  I guarantee they will be clean enough.  [/quote]

You would think it doesn’t take a long time, but a full day of bottles and pump parts does take a while. I guess I am just a super b who picks unnecessary fights and should just quit pumping. I thought I was a sleep deprived parent with minimal downtime and limited problem solving ability due to the sleep deprivation who was hoping to get some ideas on how to deal with a problem (hey, I couldn’t even figure out the dishwasher logistics without help, and I do appreciate it). I thought I was just a parent who is envious of her spouse’s downtime and trying to figure out how to navigate those feelings, and a mom who is scaling back pumping slowly to prevent another bout of mastitis and to help avoid weaning-related depression. But apparently I just suck. Thanks to all who confirmed that for me. Don’t worry; your loathing for me is nothing compared to my self-loathing.[/quote]
I am saying this kindly because I understand how difficult things are for you right now, but if this is an example of how you communicate your displeasure to your husband (you mentioned a lack of diplomacy), I understand why your requests for help lead to arguments.  You may not like how pp phrased it, but it's a valid opinion with real advice (i.e., maybe you don't need to wait for a dishwasher cycle).[/quote]

OP here—you’re right, it wasn’t a fair response to this PP in particular. It was more a reaction to previous posters. Apologies to PP.

I don’t think the above represents how I communicate with my DH. Have you ever posted something on DCUM that resulted in multiple attacks? It doesn’t feel great. I wish I had the wherewithal to ignore them, but I’m feeling a little frayed. I would guess that most peoples’ responses to unpleasant posters are quite different than their interactions in real life. That said, I am getting treatment for PPD and I am genuinely feeling very negative about myself. So that probably comes out in my interactions with my husband. (By the way, I don’t recommend posting about PPD here; people will tear you apart.)[/quote]

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