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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]After being corrected/disciplined (and I'm NOT talking any sort of severe punishment) she'll say stuff like "I know you hate me, why don't you just say it?" or "wouldn't your life be easier if I were never born? Just think, you'd never have to deal with any of this."

I don't know what to do. [/quote]

“You say this each time you are corrected or punished. Let me be clear: It is because I love you that I do this. If I don’t set boundaries and give consequences, you’ll get the message that this behavior is okay. It’s not. And if it’s allowed to continue, the consequences later on in life will get bigger. The time you should worry about me hating you and not caring about you is when I stop engaging and let you do whatever you want.”[/quote]

This sounds about right to me.  DS works had to deflect whenever we are talking with him about his behavior -- tries to start a fight with us, tries to get us (mom and dad) to fight, gets extremely offended by some random thing.

He often start with "I just don't get why you...", to which I respond "You're a smart kid, I think you do get it really.  It's not what you want to hear, but you understand why as a parent I'm saying this."  He's actually started taking a deep breath often when he's started to launch into what he "doesn't get" and saying "that's not true, actually I understand it, but [reason it's wrong]."  I think that's progress.[/quote]

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