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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD is part of a group of four friends, all starting middle school this year.  One friend, Amy has been best friends with other friend Sara for the past few years.  All four friends went to the same elementary school until this past year when Sara switched schools.  Amy is having her birthday party in a few weeks and didn’t invite Sara. She made it very clear on the invitation that only two friends were invited. She didn’t invite Sara because Sara is going to a different middle school than the other girls.  So today my DD is hanging out with Sara and mentions that she will see her at the birthday. Sara says she didn’t get an invitation and my DD assures her that she probably will. After the play date Sara’s mom calls Amy’s mom to ask about the party and you can imagine how things went from there.  I hate drama and feel absolutely terrible about this. There are so many hurt feelings as a result of this.  I’ve talked to Amy’s mom and she has been very kind and gracious about my DD mistake.  My DD is shy, quiet and doesn’t have too many friends. She is in absolute tears over this. She assumed Sara was invited because Sara and Amy were best friends. Honestly it’s usually my DD who gets left out, and she is used to it and knows it’s just part of life.  I’m fairly antisocial myself and am unsure how DD and I should proceed at this point. [/quote]
Here's what I think happened. Since Sara went to a different school this past year and will be going to a different middle school than the other girls, Amy-Sara friendship is dying a natural death, if it hasn't already. It happens. My child's former BFF went to a CES and, as soon as she got accepted there, she might have completely fallen off the face of the Earth, for all we know. Our attempts to arrange playdates failed, she didn't invite my child to her birthday party, and, subsequently, my child didn't invite that girl to hers. They hang out in different circles now, and that's okay.

Unlike Sara's mother, I didn't call anybody demanding explanations :shock: , I just told my daughter to take it in stride and develop relationships with other friends, which she has.

Something similar might have happened between Amy and Sara. Oh, well, it's life. OP, I honestly don't think your daughter should beat yourself up over what seems to be an honest mistake![/quote]

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