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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry you guys are struggling. I would look into a “mother’s helper”/a younger baby sitter for the house, to help take care of either the baby or to play with the older kids under somewhat supervision from your wife. There are also “parents night out” programs at some of the indoor play areas around here - I get emails for them all the time. Maybe you could drop the oldest at one of those places for an evening.

As for other stuff: are you already ordering groceries for delivery or store pickup? If not, start doing that so you don’t have to spend time at the grocery store. Most of the grocery stores around here offer it as do walmart and Target. Stick to easy meals like sandwiches, vegetables and dip, pasta, tacos, etc. [b]Also, does your wife need to be working right now? [/b]Can she take the rest of the summer off and pick it back up in the fall after school starts? [/quote]

OP here. This is how I am and would totally agree but its her THING.  She has a class she goes to twice a week where she sees her friends and it's also a social thing.  I honestly wish she had more classes to go to because she really likes it. [/quote]

You're right OP - she probably really needs that time. it's her time just for HER. I definitely wouldn't push on that time, that's the last thing she needs. Your other ideas will be much more palatable for her I think :)

Also, my husband and I sometimes have what we call a "state of the union" where we really sit down, go through who is taking on what, what has been getting lost in the mix, where we want things to be etc., just a check-in but we make it more formal, like hey let's plan a state of the union this week and then we get out a bottle of wine, have some dessert and go through our budget all sorts of things. Wondering if there is any chance of a night you all could do this and truly write out all the different things your wife is doing, and find ones you can take on. if you have it all listed out you might be able to say - hey, I can handle x. also x. and also could we get a mothers helper for x time. Your wife might be more amenable too if it's a joint discussion like that. If she's particularly overwhelmed she may feel sensitive if she thinks you're coming to her with this stuff and perceive she 'can't handle it.' When that isn't at all what you are trying to do/imply.[/quote]

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