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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is the OP. The DE origin is not a secret and never has been. We have talked about it off and on over the years. But it isn't something that has come up a lot and not something they ask about so we haven't covered it in detail. It hasn't come up in a while and I forget to mention it, which I guess is my bad... I don' t know.  I will find a way to work it into conversation and give them the opportunity to ask questions and know the door is open if they ever do want to talk about it. I will not sit them down and have some big heart to heart like it's a deep dark secret that has to be unloaded. My oldest is going through a health issue right now and I am not going to add something else to his plate unnecessarily. [/quote]

OP,  I don’t think there is a right answer.   I am in the same boat and my DD is 4.  We are not keeping it a secret, but truly how often does the issue of a person’s conception come up naturally in a conversation.  My concern is that even though we are not keeping it a secret, will she be paying enough attention so that it will not come as a surprise to her she is a teenager.  We considered raising it every year at Thanksgiving (saying one of the things we are thankful for is the egg donor who was willing to help us start our family) but worry that our DD might eventually view that negatively somehow if it is brought up every year.  You just don’t know how kids will interpret something.  Sorry I don’t have an answer. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone.[/quote]

There are counselors who can help you with how to address it at various stages of your kids' lives and books about how to talk to them about it.   For as much effort as DE took, it's worth the effort to get comfortable talking about it and keep the relationship healthy.       [/quote]

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