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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is pretty much what my teens (15, 17, 19) have told me and what I've heard from parents of their peers.  And FWIW, they go to/went to a public HS in Northern VA (not one that's talked about a lot on DCUM).  They all get good grades, as do most of their friends, and play sports.  [b]The hardest drug that is done by their friends is weed.  Drinking is very common and most [/b][[b]b]parents have the "do it here, give me all the keys" mentality about it.  Also, most of their friends vape and it seems like there are more kids who do than don't.[/b]  One of mine told me he tried it and hated it.  The other two say they haven't and don't want to.

Oral sex is very, very common and seen as no big deal.  However, teens have gotten the message that oral sex IS sex because my two teen sons tell me that the number of oral sex partners is absolutely counted in your overall number of sexual partners.  Also, much to my shock, anal is growing in popularity.

As OP said, most girls are on some form of birth control.  Most guys have parents who provide condoms.  I know we put a box of condoms in our hall closet and told them they were there.

Also, my 19 yo DD has become even more open with me since going away to college, and recently told me that girls hooking up and experimenting is really common now and also seen as no big deal.  She said it's viewed as the safer option because women are less likely to send random, unwanted nude pictures, take secret pictures, or secretly film while having sex.  Who knew that secret filming was such a big thing??  But according to her, at least where she goes to college (an ivy), guys often record and SHARE the vids.  And just because two women hookup, it doesn't mean they need any kind of gay/lesbian/queer/bi/etc. label.  They're just fulfilling urges with close friends.  Well, okay then.  [/quote]

The bolded.  It's their friend group, seriously.  Not all parents or their teens think this way.  These parents seem to think that this an acceptable rite of passage for their kids.  They know about it but they look the other way figuring if they don't allow it in their own home they'll just go somewhere else, right?

This is not my parenting style and it is not something that I would be comfortable condoning, myself.  Yeah, I'm not a hipster, with it, cool parent.  I know..[/quote]

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