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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I somehow feel like more details are needed. Ages of the kids? Reasons for the cancellations? Do you pay your child support (which I know is separate from visitation). Are you changing the hours or conditions for pickup / drop off? Is there a reason yu R home may be unsafe or similar right now?

Also, why would you wait 6 years before this was a problem? [/quote]

Two children under the age of 10. Usually my ex provides no reason for cancellation. On occasion my ex has said one of the kids is sick, or they are going out of town. I do pay child support. I have not changed any hours or conditions for pick up/drop off. No reason why my home is unsafe. I truly believe my ex is trying to alienate me from the kids' lives.[/quote]

Then you document it, and contact your lawyer, who is the person best tasked with ensuring it doesn’t happen any more.

But “on occasion” with reason is not a pattern or targeted alienation. [/quote]

OP here. I will clarify again. For the first 3-4 years, there were maybe 4-5 cancelled visits throughout the year. Some were from a child being sick (but then none of the kids came), some were because my ex was taking them out of town, some were just no reason at all. When I said "on occasion", I meant my ex would give me a reason. For the past two years, the cancellations increased to about 10-12 per year. For most, no reason was given. My ex does not "make up" the time by switching weekends or adding weekdays. I brought up the alienation point because not only are my visits routinely cancelled, my ex seems to be trying to keep me from their lives in other areas that I won't detail because I want to remain anonymous. Was just interested in others' thoughts on the missed parenting time.[/quote]

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