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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Unless a man is in his 30s and has a steady job, he is not looking to settle. He is only looking for sex. [/b]

Women need to understand it and work towards becoming more independent in their 20s.

Women need to do the following in their 20s and trust me that they will not be lacking for serious, good quality and suitable suitors.
-Get their professional credentials in order. Study, intern, get degrees.
-Travel
-Build a nest egg by maxing out retirement saving as much as possible.
-Consider buying a condo or house if you are stable in your profession and intend to stay at a place for 5 years or so.
-Take care of their health and fitness, work towards their mental health or other issues fixed through therapy and workshops
-Take care of any cosmetic issues - lasik, laser hair removal, crooked teeth etc
- Develop hobbies, get involved with charities and non-profit work.
- Connect with people and keep in touch with them. Develop and nurture professional connections. Network.
- Expand their personal horizon, get new experiences - sports, travel, museums, art, theatre, book clubs, try new food, learn new language. 
- Date a lot of people who treat you nicely from different walks of life. 
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What has happened to make men this way? I hate this idea that your 20s are just an extended period of adolescence and it's not "real" adulthood anymore. It is! Twenty somethings are more than capable of being adults.[/quote]

Np actually this is a great list.  As a female I wasn’t really mature enough in my twenties to commit and have kids.  I guess I could have ‘stepped up’ but I’m glad I didn’t.  I travelled a ton, worked hard, partied hard, had a blast.  Learned a lot about life and myself that you just don’t figure out until you are on your own.  Only thing I didn’t do from this list was buy a condo or do the cosmetic stuff.  Now I’m out in the suburbs with two kids and SO glad I had that time.  My friends who married in their twenties really felt like they missed out, especially on travel, if they had kids earlier.  Some are already divorced.  I don’t think it’s necessarily ideal for women.  OTOH I feel sooo tired now having two young kids at 40, and I almost didn’t get to have them due to age.  So there are definitely trade offs.  But OP should tell her SIL to stop worrying about boys and just have a blast!  [/quote]

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