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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would respond in the moment, if I was feeling brave and strong, with something like "Hey, I'm a XXX and I find that pretty offensive."

And then I'd let the silence hang.

If I wasn't feeling so brave I might just get up and leave the room.

I would not pursue that person as a friend and would seek to get together with others.

I am sorry you are so lonely OP.  That's a bigger issue than one nasty wench you were unfortunate enough to come across.

Is there an activity you enjoy doing, or a skill you've always wanted to learn?  Perhaps you could find a class or something - I've made several friends that way.

Or volunteer w/ an organization - that can be another good route, especially if it's an ongoing commitment fulfilled through a group activity.

Or post on your neighborhood listserv that you're thinking of starting a book group and see if you get any interested responses.  In face, you could make it more broad.  "Hey all, I'd like to get to know some more folks in the neighborhood and am thinking about starting a book group, movie group, or something along those lines.  Low commitment - maybe just once a month to get together at the moves or chat about a book or travel idea or something.  Anyone interested in anything along those lines?"

Then you can see if you get any takers and build the activity around whatever you're all interested in.

I hope things look up for you soon.  Don't sacrifice your own morals or ethics in the meantime.  Hang in there.
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Even if the OP belongs to a group I personally disagree with or dislike the point is that she does belong to that group and deserves friends who don't say people should kill themselves.  While the acquaintance may have meant it jokingly, those kind of remarks can be very scary.  All of the above suggestions are great -- I also recommend meetup.com or similar sites to find low-stress ways of meeting people who share your interests, OP.[/quote]

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