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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women said “yes!” to these losers, and it’s unclear why.[/quote]
Because I didn't know anything about kids either.  When we had kids, I learned.  I assumed he would, too, seeing as how he's a smart guy who was all in when it came to learning his career.  When the kids came, he didn't step up.  If I hadn't, then the kids would have suffered, so I did.  The gap has gotten wider and wider over time.[/quote]

I posted on page 1 about recognizing my dh.

Camr back to read the comments, and this one stands out to me. I feel the same.

I have changed and learned and grown over and over and over again as a mom. Let’s just say 8x over the 8 years. Adapted, totally altered my previous personality for my kids.

It’s because I made mistakes, sought out books or information, figured out what to do next time.

What troubles me is... I’ve read entire books on parenting for different stages, even future stages so I’m ahead of the game. If I try to distill 3 minutes of knowledge on DH, it’s too much to pay attention to. Now, it’s not my job to educate him. I know that. And when we’ve argued about parenting, I try not to act like a know it all—I am simply trying to help him. In a really low-key way, I’ve told him something like “I have zero expectation that you need to read parenting books. I have time to do that. That’s part of my on-and-off sahm job. But I do hope you’ll allow to me to share some of the information that has helped me deeply.”

I’m so confused by defensiveness. I understand why, (and promise it only comes up every 9 months, if that.) I just wish we could talk about parenting strategies more, especially when he is frustrated by issues I have ‘conquered.’ and I wish he wouldn’t use ‘defense’ as an excuse for what I think is honestly just lack of interest. [/quote]

So sorry for many typos. Typing on my phone. I went against my gut, and didn’t proof. Fixed it I think ^[/quote]

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