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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it depends on the age of the deceased.[/quote]

Exactly. If this was a sudden death of a 35 year old mother/father of small children, there's no way a shower would be appropriate.
But if it's the funeral for Aunt Bessie who lived a long life and died at 97, then go for it. [/quote]

DP.  It's funny because I think the age or relationship doesn't matter.  One death isn't less worse than the other.  I do think that OP needs to mind her own beeswax about the shower though and attend only if she feels up to it.[/quote]

You don’t think one death is less worse than another. Would it be equally sad for you if your 4 year old child died as if your 100 year old great grandmother died?![/quote]

DP responding.  I'm the poster from the first page who has buried her husband and two children.  IMO the deaths of either of my daughters or my husband is no more or less worse than the death of someone else's great-grandmother.  I would never, ever judge someone else because of the way they mourned AND I would certainly never put life on a scale of more value versus less value.  That's disgusting and repulsive.[/quote]

dp.  I respect your inclination not to compare nor judge, but saying some deaths are worse than others is not “disgusting and repulsive.”  We are all mortal and die sometime.  There is a life cycle.  When someone’s ‘cycle’ ends early, I think most people find that especially heart-wrenching.[/quote]

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