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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother and I were never close. She was so busy chasing her career that she didn't have time for me. There were dozens of events where I won an award or was asked to speak or perform. Neither of my parents ever came. For a while I believed that both of them were busy with work. It wasn't until middle school that I started to doubt my mother actually cared. She would say she was proud of me, but that was it. Nothing on the fridge. No celebratory dinner or ice cream. Just "good job" spouted a million different ways. My father on the other hand...I didn't live with him, but I swear he acted like I won a Nobel Prize every single time I was on stage for something. He didn't come either, but he'd call. Better yet, I'd meet someone he only knew in passing like a security guard at his job. They'd say "Oh, I heard about your report card! Great job!" I felt like he cared even though between the two of them my mother probably had a lot more on her plate as a parent.

So the only advice I have is to make sure your child knows you care. It's okay if you can't make it to things as long as they know why and they sincerely feel like you're proud and supportive of them. I'm a teacher. I can't go to half of the stuff my daughter has because I'm busy watching other people's kids. But I shower her with so much excitement when I pick her up. You're not failing as long as the love doesn't change. [/quote]

Ok, thanks, that is helpful. We attend almost everything and when we don’t we celebrate. I also had parents who hardly verbalized their pride and support so I’m very conscious of trying to say it.[/quote]

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