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[quote=Anonymous]It does not have to be you OP but I know few families who used to complain that about the same thing traveling with their kids of young age and the problem was that the parents overpacked the kid's day with activities heavily. 
It is very important to adjust the amount of activities according to the energy level and need for rest and relaxation for little kids who look forward to free time in the summer. A child often does not know what does it mean "going to Disney"
they only see pictures and think fun but the reality of lines is such. Then you see people trying to squeeze most juice of their buck so they wake up at  6 run to the park and stand in each line for each activity and collapse in the evening after all the activities.
The question is .. why? Why are they doing it? At the end of the day, talk to kids who grew up and ask what mattered to them.. a trip, a fun one or two rides are remembered but all this frenzy is not necessary. 
When people scale down majorly and let kids sleep long, make very few activities and let them soak in the pool, enjoy the meals in peace and play in the sand at the beach and relax watching TV some.. that changes things..

People fail to tailor the activities to the level and capacity of a child. Then they complain. 
I remember how one of my friend got so upset at their kids for the very same thing on a trip that they cut all activities but one a day "as a punishment' .. turned they had the most peaceful and fun vacation ever..  :lol:  that was very interesting thing to hear but think about it.. Kids really don't know what they are subscribing for when you action pack the day,  you do, they don't. Also the sensory overload is major. You take them out of their known element, that is already a lot to process, and now you throw at them new stuff at the speed of light. Stand back and think about this. Not every child has the same processing capacity, perhaps yours does not.

Next time just try to bring up the topic of amount of activates to the kid and see what they want to do,  do it before the trip.. you will have way more things they want to do.. then watch .. after one day of what they plan they don't want to do it at the same speed.. they simply overestimate their capacity. Most of the kids have no idea what they are subscribing to.. so when you look at other families you never know what are they doing, what kind of kids they have, how they plan and do they take lots of break?

Read Disney boards, most families claim do one day activites, next day give kids day off at the pool, do not overbook days at the park.. etc. This is just an example of how some people plan to avoid tired and cranky kids.

At the end of the day is it about being somewhere with the family, change the landscape, go rest and relax? If so then who cares if you go or do stuff or do nothing? It is not a competition, rent a great room with a great view at the great hotel with great pools in a great location and you are already on vacation, doing anything else is optional.

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