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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It depends on the situation. In this situation, the sibling had a child earlier than OP and 2nd child, so if grandma wants to, why not.  Then the issue is that there is a 3rd grandchild on the way within a few months of child 2 and grandma is having health issues.  If grandma had no health issues and ok with 3, its fine but there are also other factors like transportation.

My mom was retired, no grandkids, said to go ahead and have one as she'd help and funny thing, baby came and she refused to help, even temporarily when our child care fell through (then she was angry I quit my job but I had no other last minute options).[/quote]

Uh that is insane that you quit your job but because your childcare plan “fell through”. You could have found some back-up/temporary childcare while looking for a more permanent arrangement. When women say things like that I assume they were always planning to quit anyway but wanted a cover for their decision.[/quote]

We had a slot at a day care center and were told everything was fine.  Then, a few days before the start date I called to confirm and was told there was no longer a slot.  My boss would not extend maternity leave and my husband didn't have any.  So, no, its near impossible to find a few days before as during my 3 months maternity leave that was the only slot I could get.  Hiring a nanny would have been more than my salary so that made no sense.  My mom could have helped for a few weeks or a month till we could find something else.  She's been a lousy grandma so at this point its a non-issue.  We don't ask for any help and never would and it really annoys her as she wants to show off to her boyfriend.  Now she has to settle for his grandkids as hers are not interested in her anymore.[/quote]

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