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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is socialist about this whole situation?[/quote]

Vast majority of inheritances are split equally among children and grandchildren.  That is most adult kids base case and expectations.  If you are deviating from that - while alive or in your final will - you should explain to all.

If you look at sister A who has a career in medicine and brother B who bounces around the music scene and want to give more to brother B, claiming he is more needing than sister A.  [b]Isn’t that socialism? [/b]Focusing resources based on need, on the welfare of the least advantages group? Make things more equal by proving more help and leaving more inheritance to your less successful child.[/quote]

No, socialism is a political and economic theory of social organization which advocates that the means of production, distribution, and exchange should be owned or regulated by the community as a whole.  OP thinks that she and her husband have some claim on the parents' assets; in fact, it is the parents' private property and they are free to spend it as they wish.  In this case, OP is interpreting it through the lens of inheritance, which may not be the parents' thought process at all.  Maybe they think that their son has earned it by working on the properties with them.  Perhaps they value his contributions more than OP does.  Maybe he does more work than OP knows.  Maybe there is some tax or liability advantage in doing it the way they are doing.  Maybe they are giving him these properties now to avoid complicated probate and intend to leave different assets to OP's husband.  Or maybe they are doing it because they think the brother needs more help, and they are his parents and wish to help him.  OP doesn't know, because her husband apparently didn't ask.  And given that this is their business, the parents don't, in fact, need to explain or justify themselves to OP's husband, who is not involved in any way in running this business.

And adult kids who have any expectations at all regarding their parents' money are silly and deserve any disappointment they suffer.  It's not your money until it's your money.  Plus, people who count their inheritances in advance don't really care about it being "fair" except insofar as they define "fair."  OP wouldn't bat an eye if the parents gave them more because they had more kids or something.  [/quote]

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