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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At those ages, it is work.  It's great that you enjoy it, but it's still work.

It's worth considering, though, why it's a joy when your young children want to spend time with you, when your husband wants to spend time with you, it's work, it's stressful, it's pulling you in a million directions.[/quote]

Well, I guess because right now I enjoy my kids more so than my husband, just to be painfully honest. :-/ [/quote]

That's something you need to work on, for real.  What do you think is going to happen in 5-6 years when parenting gets physically easier but you and your husband have spent the better part of a decade viewing each other as work and resenting each other to some extent as a result? [/quote]

I don't disagree, but it's her HUSBAND who needs to step up and take responsibility if he wants more time as a couple. With babies 14 months apart, it's hardly likely to be true that OP is making up parenting tasks -- I seriously doubt there's some huge well of discretionary time she's choosing not to spend on her marriage.  Why is it OP's job to find a sitter, book a restaurant, etc?  Also her husband needs to take responsibility for his own mental health -- if he's depressed or anxious (normal) he needs to get therapy.  [/quote]
If OP can't even find the time/energy for a five-minute conversation that's not about the kids, do you really think she's going to make the time and and energy to show up for a date night, even if her husband planned everything?  [/quote]

I mean, I'm not going to blame the FT working mom of a 1 and 2 year old for not having the energy for an elaborate date night.

They need to meet in the middle.[/quote]
Why do you assume he’s not willing to do so?  All we know from OP is that he wants to spend more time with her, but she doesn’t have the energy to spend time with him.[/quote]

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