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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At those ages, it is work.  It's great that you enjoy it, but it's still work.

It's worth considering, though, why it's a joy when your young children want to spend time with you, when your husband wants to spend time with you, it's work, it's stressful, it's pulling you in a million directions.[/quote]

Well, I guess because right now I enjoy my kids more so than my husband, just to be painfully honest. :-/ [/quote]

That's something you need to work on, for real.  What do you think is going to happen in 5-6 years when parenting gets physically easier but you and your husband have spent the better part of a decade viewing each other as work and resenting each other to some extent as a result? [/quote]

I don't disagree, but it's her HUSBAND who needs to step up and take responsibility if he wants more time as a couple. With babies 14 months apart, it's hardly likely to be true that OP is making up parenting tasks -- I seriously doubt there's some huge well of discretionary time she's choosing not to spend on her marriage.  Why is it OP's job to find a sitter, book a restaurant, etc?  Also her husband needs to take responsibility for his own mental health -- if he's depressed or anxious (normal) he needs to get therapy.  [/quote]
If OP can't even find the time/energy for a five-minute conversation that's not about the kids, do you really think she's going to make the time and and energy to show up for a date night, even if her husband planned everything?  [/quote]

I mean, I'm not going to blame the FT working mom of a 1 and 2 year old for not having the energy for an elaborate date night.

They need to meet in the middle.[/quote]

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