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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So your mother wants to see her grandchildren and daughter before they leave on summer vacation? That is truly a terrible thing for her to want to do. It may not be helpful for you but suck it up and appreciate that you have a relationship with your mother. [/quote]

But she needs to pack to leave. If the mom is willing to dash around from room to room with her, that’s fine. But an hour of sitting over coffee is inconsiderate.

My mom also offers help that ends up being counter productive for the same reason. Or worse, she’ll arrive with shopping bags full of things she thinks will help and I waste an hour looking through them at her assistance and debating her insistence that the battery operated personal fan IS worth suitcase space even if it only gets used once. “Margaret says hers saved her from heat stroke at the Memorial Day parade!”[/quote]

Oh, my word. Who said OP's mom would march in and DEMAND that OP park it in the living room with her for an hour? Like, what do you really think would happen if OP said, "I've got to chat and pack at the same time; come on up to the bedroom with me, if you'd like." And what if she did decline such and offer and pout a bit? OK, and? She wouldn't light the house on fire or anything.

Who cares what your mom does? That's not relevant, because this isn't about you and your mom.[/quote]

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