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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  The family is in the donut hole so my sister is not getting any financial aid and she is not qualified for merit aid.  It is a long story but my mother and step-father stole my college saving money for their gambling addition.  They didn't save any money for my half sister college either.  I also had my own demon to deal with and for a very long time, I blamed them, including my sister, for the situation.  It took me a long time to realize that it was not her fault.  My own DH and FIL showed me that I just do not walk away from your flesh and blood.  I still have problems with my parents but I would like to amend for what I did with my sister.  My FIL already set aside a big chunk of money for a trust fund and DH is going pay for the college cost @ U. of Chicago.  I don't want my sister to take on loan because I want her to have a piece of mind in college.  My wonderful FIL will get her internship and job after graduation.

I will reach out to my sister directly and report back.[/quote]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd reach out through the aunt to help reconnect with your half sister. Then find out the full detail about the cost - how much is a loan versus how much might be need based scholarship. Be careful in how you do this because if there is need based scholarship available, your stepping in might jeopardize it. The devil is in the details. The odds are that your mother will find out about it but don't let that be an issue. Your half sister is very lucky to have you in her life. [/quote]

PP - I had not read your second message. Your husband and FIL are incredibly generous.[/quote]

I don't think so.  Too many strings.  "Yeah, I'll pay for your college, only to piss off mom, and you're only my HALF sister (did I mention HALF yet?) and oh HAHA REVENGE ON STEP DAD LOLZ. " and "Yeah, I'll pay, but reallyl it's my FIL's money and I'm goin to make you work for him indefinitely so you're forever reminded I DID THIS FOR YOU.  YOU COULDN'T GET MERIT AID AND MOMMY AND HALF DADDY DIDN'T DO IT FOR YOU SO I DID #SAVIOR"[/quote]
Student loans also come with strings attached...[/quote]

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