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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had my best friend from HS as a bridesmaid at my wedding. She invited me to her wedding in August but I am not a bridesmaid for her. I don’t know if she’s having any bridesmaids.

I know I shouldn’t feel hurt, but I am a bit. [b]We haven’t stayed in touch that much[/b], but I sort of want to know if there’s a reason she didn’t return the gesture (assuming she is having bridesmaids at all).

Should I just leave this alone, or is there any good way to ask her about it?[/quote]

It's self-explanatory.  At the time of your wedding, you two were close. Many years passed and you two didn't stay in touch. Now you're not close anymore. Why would you be a bridesmaid at her wedding?[/quote]

We hadn’t been close when I invited her to be a bridesmaid in mine. She enthusiastically helped and was wonderful.

She has no siblings and her whole family is in China, so there are no female family members.[/quote]

Did you need an extra person to balance out your bridal party?  You are admitting you weren’t close even at your wedding, so maybe she knew that?

Also she might not be having any.  Take it as a gift you don’t have to wear an expensive one time dress.[/quote]

+1  I don't understand why OP would invite someone to be a bridesmaid if they weren't close.  It's supposed to be a special support from your family/loved ones.  OP's friend probably gets that.[/quote]

No need to be harsh on the OP, everyone gets to decide who they want to support them in their bridal party and everyone has different definitions of what they want that support to look like - OP is probably someone that wanted people from different phases of her life, that relationship clearly had meaning to her even if they don't talk regularly now. Some people want those people there. That's fine and we shouldn't begrudge her that. The important thing is for her to understand the same thing - that everyone has different definitions of who they want supporting them in a bridal party. That's ok. [/quote]

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