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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]She drove out to you while on bedrest and asked how to help you, and you asked her to clean your place? lol it's not surprising she declined.[/b] Either sit down and talk to her about how you feel and how you'd like to proceed, or accept that it's always going to be this way. Either way, you can do it without family support. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but you can do this. [/quote]

np:  What were you and OP’s mother expecting OP to ask for?  I can’t think of anything OP would need with more than domestic chores![/quote]

Why cant OP DH clean and unpack? [/quote]

SHE ASKED HOW TO HELP!!!  Good lord what did she think her daughter would say?  Oh mom how about you just sit there and watch Netflix while I seethe with anxiety inside about all the things I can't physically do but desperately want to?  I'm not OP but man you people are so quick to judge.[/quote]

Oh, please. You think IP wants to desperately unpack? OP had a whole month to unpack, and did not. If OP and her DH didn't unpack in that time, why would anyone else? [/quote]

What on earth is wrong with you, PP?!?!   OP was pregnant and had just moved.  NORMAL PEOPLE WHO OFFER TO HELP actually mean that they would like to be helpful.  When I offer to help someone, I appreciate when they tell me what they actually need help with.  I've been on bedrest and I had a preemie in the NICU (born at 34 weeks, so I have some appreciation of how much more exponentially scary and fraught OP's journey is.)  I would 100% be fine with cleaning a friend's house if she was on bedrest, or unpacking some boxes.  You seriously have something wrong with you if you think helping people in tangible ways like this is weird.  This is what friends do.  This is what (normal) loved ones offer to do.  [/quote]

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