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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you keep her room in your new house? That’s what my mom did and while I still felt sad for the old house, the fact that I still had my room with my furniture and things helped me feel connected to the new place. Remember that she considered that place her home for all her conscious life and suddenly it is gone.

You are completely right to move and there is no need to delay your life. But do acknowledge the loss she feels from never being able to visit the home she grew up in again, and the feelings of loss and sadness. [/quote]

I agree 100% with the above.   My mom and step-father moved my sophomore year - half way across the country.  We were living in Pennsylvania, I was going to college in Ohio and they moved to Kansas.  My mom put all my furniture and decorations in my new "room."  It helped having my stuff in "my room."

Since I had been in college two years, I was not as connected with my high school friends anymore and I had a summer job already lined up near my college so I went back east after a few weeks at my parent's new home.  I remember being a little upset that I wouldn't be able to see my friends from high school. I think because of their move, I did lose the connections I had with almost all of them.   It wasn't like I could drive from Kansas to Pennsylvania for a weekend visit.  It took a couple of years to feel comfortable in the house.  Had they moved after my freshman year, I probably would have been more upset.

But I eventually came to view their house as my home.  My mom passed away a couple of years ago and my step-father moved back east about six months later.  When we were packing up the house, I was a mess - partly because my mom was gone.  But all the memories I had made in the new house came flooding back.  Even as an adult, with my own husband and children, that house was my home.[/quote]

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