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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]FIL is much older than my parents (in his 80s) and in declining health.  DH and I are 35 and have young kids (2 and 4 years old).  Thankfully DH has a sister who is older than us (in her 40s) who is doing the bulk of the heavy lifting regarding taking care of FIL but the emotional weight of having an aging parent has been really had for my DH.

I realize not everybody can choose the perfect age to have children and as a result have kids later in life than they had thought but its hard now being the child with older parents and also young kids to take care of.

My parents are on the younger side (early 60s) and just starting to go through this with their own parents.  But they don't have young kids in the house and a very busy job.  My mom is retired and has been helping with doctors appointments, around the house, etc with her parents since she is the oldest and her siblings all still work.

Anyway this is just a vent and a sad post about how hard it is being a sandwich generation.  [/quote]

My FIL was 40 when he had my husband. He was in his late 70s when he moved in with my husband (planned prior to meeting husband). He came in fairly independent, but as he aged I helped assist him at medical appointments and taking medicine. He shared a bathroom with the baby. Move out the shower chair to put the baby tub in, take out the baby tub and put in shower chair.

He was diagnosed with cancer when our LO was 18 months old. They had a great bond, we ate dinner almost every evening together. I wish LO was able to spend more time with him. FIL was bed bound while I was pregnant. It was tough. I didn't realize how tired we were until we slept for 2 days following his death. I wouldn't trade it for the world though. I am so glad that FIL was able to spend his last days surrounded by his loved ones in our home just as he wanted. I must say, I am fortunate where I have a job that offered the flexibility to assist him in appointments. [/quote]

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