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[quote=Anonymous]Lots of pp already gave great advice - a few things I will add:

- foster kids take a lot of time, energy and attention. Not just at first but for the long haul. You will have to cheat your biological children out of your time, attention and energy to meet the needs of the foster child. The can cause resentment all around. It's not a reason not to foster but it is something to be honest about so you can recognize it.

- kids under 5 can have very real and serious problems.  They can be violent and destructive.  Do not make the mistake of believing that a younger child will be "easier".  That's not the case.  They might have misdiagnosed issues that you will be spending many hours tracking down doctors to diagnosis, get therapy in place, and so on. See above.

- you will only be able to hire sitters that have approved background checks for your foster child.

- you will not be able to leave the state with your foster child without permission. thinking here of going on a vacation not commuting to a doctor in Maryland if you live in VA.

- some foster agencies will ask you to be involved with the biological parents including contact with them and possibly setting up visits.

- We started the process a few years ago to get certified and it was assumed by the agency that when a child was placed with us , that one of us or split between the two  would take 12 weeks of family leave to help the foster child adjust.  They informed us that this is what most foster parents did.
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